I've taken 5 maternity leaves. Some experiences did not go well — but I learned how important it is to have choices.

• Alexandra Frost is a former teacher who lives in Ohio and has five children.
• During each pregnancy, she faced logistical challenges due to maternity leave rules.
• Self-employment gave her more flexibility, but it blurred the lines between work and parental leave.

From this leave, I learned that maybe I didn’t need super long leaves; I just needed choice. I didn’t regret going back to work “early” when it was my own decision, not being forced on me by an employer or policy.

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