I'm the emergency contact. The school still calls my wife.

• I’m the first name on the emergency contrct form for my son at school. They still call my wife.
• I work remote, so it’s easier for me to take on more of the childcare duties in our family.
• I’m embedded in the weekday rhythm in a way a lot of dads aren’t. I’m grateful for that.

The WhatsApp groups still add the mom by default. The birthday invites still go to her. The nurse still calls her first. So every year, I’ll keep putting my name first on the emergency form. And every year, I’ll notice when it doesn’t matter.

This year, my son’s day camp scheduled orientation for Sunday, June 21st. You know what else is Sunday, June 21st — Father’s Day. You know where I will be.