I'm 69 and pay $4,500 a month to live in a care home. It's given me a better sense of community.

• Victor Lee spent most of his life living with his siblings before he found himself on his own.
• After falling several times with no one around to notice or help, living alone no longer felt safe.
• In 2023, he moved into an assisted-living home in Singapore, where he pays about $4,500 a month for a private room.

This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Victor Lee, 69, who lives at Camino House, an assisted living facility in Singapore. This interview has been edited for length and clarity.

I worked as a sales assistant at a popular department store, but stopped working in my 20s because of health issues. My siblings took care of me after that, and I relied on them to help me get by day to day. We were all single.

But as the years went by, age caught up with them one by one, and I was left on my own.

For over two years, I lived alone in that apartment we once shared. But as I got older and less mobile, it became harder to manage the stairs every day. I fell several times, and I started to realize how dangerous it was to be by myself.

Each time I fell, there was nobody around to know. But the last time was the one that made me realize I could not keep living this way.

I remember lying there for a long time, struggling to get myself up. When I finally managed to, I had to call an ambulance — and then open the door for them myself.

Choosing assisted living

I decided to sell my apartment and downsize to a smaller public-housing flat. But like other Singaporeans who buy these Build-to-Order flats, I would have to wait several years for the apartment to be ready.

In the meantime, I knew I needed to find a place where help would be nearby if I fell again.

Since I was still fairly independent and able to manage most daily activities on my own, a traditional nursing home didn’t seem like the right fit for me. Thankfully, a social worker I knew helped me consider my options.

I came to see it twice before I moved in in 2023. I knew there were other facilities, but I found them rather old and a bit crowded. In contrast, I found Camino House to be a very nice, quiet place. Right now, there are seven residents, including me.

The caregivers are always helpful and cheerful — I call them my “sunshine girls.” They are there when I need help, but I still have the freedom to do things on my own.

Life at Camino House

I have a private room with an en-suite bathroom, and I pay 5,800 Singapore dollars, or about $4,500, every month. This covers my room, meals, laundry, and care.

I normally wake up early, around 6 a.m. After washing up, I head downstairs for breakfast, where I usually have oats with blueberries and honey.

I enjoy doing my own exercises, and several times a week, I’ll join the group activities held in the common area. We do things like painting and rattan weaving, and sometimes volunteers or children from nearby preschools come by.

In the afternoons, I often attend mass online, read, or spend time with the other residents. On Sundays, I try to go to church.

Before I came here, I was a rather introverted person. I think I’m the most talkative one now. I enjoy interacting with people. It feels more like a family here.

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